After we stopped going to the meetings we had a palm tree thing with lights and ornaments on the first christmas. A sister came by with her kids two days before christmas and all my kids were home with their partners, presents everywhere. We invited her in and I warned her before she came in that we were not going to meetings and we had decorations up. She seemed ok and we had coffee and cake and chatted away. (We had helped this sister and her three kids a great deal in the past, even having them stay in our home for 6 weeks).
Well after she left she went to an elder, who contacted bethel, who told the elders to investigate. (My husband had been an elder for years when we just stopped). My husband met one of the elders in a shop, he told him that the elders were going to come and talk. Don't bother was my husbands reply.
These days I don't care what anyone thinks, this year we are going to dress the pine tree in our garden. Lovely.